What Mom really wants for mother's day.
Ok guys, if your wife has children what are you supposed to do for Mother's Day. Well after listen to my wife and a whole ton of other wives from the PTA, the consensus is quite clear. Believe it or not, it isn't a bunch of flowers, some nice chocolates, a nice bottle of wine, a fruit basket, a piece of jewelry, or a day at the spa. While those things are appreciated, the thing she wants the most is peace and quiet----plain and simple. From the interviews I conducted during that meeting and interviewing my wife, here is what I've come up with writing as I see things through her eyes.
Many moms (me included) really dread this holiday. Why? Because rather than being just celebrated and honored for all of your work as a mom year round, you have the added hassle of buying gifts for your own mother and mother in law, perhaps having to prepare dinner for the entire family (and of course have the house impeccably clean so as to avoid the unwelcome "suggestions" of your mother in law). Rather than go through all of this, why not just do something mom would really love?
All of your children and husbands are out there fretting about what to buy mom for mother's day. Why not just ask her what she'd really like? Suggest favors instead of gifts if you can. Don't get arrogant here, likely she doesn't want you to wrap yourself in a bow, so get that out of your head. While flowers and jewelry are nice, there are lots of other things mom would love to have. One of my favorite mother's day gifts was when my husband took my children out to shoe shopping. It gave me a wonderful break and took away a job that I dread doing. I would also love it if my husband just took the children for the day to visit the grandmothers (who would really love to see the children) while I sit around and read a book at home. It is the simple things that really mean the most.
There are lots of these stressful type chores that need to be done that mom would love to have completed by someone other than herself, for instance, take the kids and do the grocery shopping. Or even just drop mom off for a manicure and make dinner while she's out. Another mom I know asked her husband to take her children for the day to a craft shop where they made a fusible glass platter. Obviously, the same thing can be done with pottery or the like, but the idea is to take away stress and make it so mom has less to do while creating a lasting memory of the event.
Yes, I do love jewelry and flowers. And I love my children and husband. But I also need time to remember why being a mom is so special, and sometimes that just takes a little bit of peace and quiet and some time away so that I can miss my family. A glass of wine, vase of flowers and some bon-bons wouldn't hurt either, but you get the point!
So armed with this secret inside information, usually not divulged to mere mortal men, I'm going to finally listen and execute the game plan given to me by a flock of what I think are a pretty representative group of Moms. I'm going to start off with a beautiful bouquet of her favorite flowers. Breakfast in bed with the kids. Then the kids and I are off for the day to visit the grandparents. Upon our return, we shall bring home her favorite take-out as I know she won't want to venture out to a restaurant on the busiest day of the year for the restaurants. Along with the dinner, her favorite bottle of wine. The kids I'll get to bed. She finishes off the night with hot bubble bath and a foot massage. Then to send my message of how I feel about her, I'll find that perfect poem to go with flowers. I can find Special Mothers Day Poems here and at other places on the web.
I hope I don't get arrested with this inside information like using insider information and trading on Wall Street would. It isn't often we (Men) are given clear instructions, instead of complex codes and encrypted messages that seem like misinformation leaked by enemy forces during war. I got to peek at an actual female game plan that wasn't in code. This time I'm acting on it --- won't you ?
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